This is a story we’ve yet to tell on our blog, but its become increasingly important in our growth as artists and humans. And its a struggle we don’t know how to fight on our own. So I’m going to share some stuff. Here goes….
Two years ago this month we made the scary, seemingly impossible decision to include babies in the equation of our family. We had been married 5.5 years at that point, for much of which I wasn’t even sure I wanted to be a mother. Call me crazy for being a Child Photographer. Many artists get started by taking endless photographs of their children, this was not me.
After 1 year of ______________ (insert negative word here, there are too many that come to mind to choose just one, or five) we realized that we waited too long. We spent years being unsure, unaffected, and frankly, pretty nonchanlant about the whole thing. We assumed we would ALWAYS have time for kids, or at least time to make up our minds. Why give up all that freedom too early?
Why do we believe we will always have time? What convinces us that life will stand still just for our convenience? Love, travel, family, career, hobbies, books to read, people to invest in, faith to develop…lives to lead. And what do we trade for this fantasy of time? A lot of cable. And other stuff too, but a lot of cable. Now I’m not harping on cable, yesterday alone I spent more time watching tv than I will ever admit. I am not the model for a full life here. Quite the opposite actually. Ben says I shouldn’t feel guilty about my _____hrs on the couch (not going to admit it remember?). And I told him, its not guilt. I rarely feel guilty. Here’s what it is:
Its the loss of something experienced.
Anyway, I digress. So 1 year ago we asked ourselves, “What have we been putting off? What have we always said we wanted to do but have yet to even think about doing it?”
Becoming foster parents….
*We’ll be telling this story in a series of blog entries, if you’re interested at all in Foster Care, let us know, leave a comment, we’d love to hear from you. Thank you for reading and for caring. Happy Monday friends. Peace.